Weight Loss - The First Obstacle

For some people, in the very first step they embarked on weight loss, even after they had overcame all their inner struggles to make this first step, there are faced with an instant obstacle: people around them.

People around you are your immediate family staying with you, your best friends, your colleagues, neighbours, business or work counterparts, etc.

As human beings, people like to have their say in anything but some people tend to say something negative:

‘Weight Loss? So you can’t eat?’

‘You can’t eat fried food/durian/ice-cream?’

‘This treatment/program/slimming centre/product is lousy and cannot work?’

‘You won’t be able to resist food!’

‘You can’t stick to the program/exercise regime/diet!’

It may be due to many different reasons – perceptions and influences, information they have, what they think they are right from what they thought they already know, or just that they are in a bad mood that day such that things coming out from their mouth is negative.

‘Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great’ - Mark Twain

Everyone have friends and everyone also have enemies. If we understand what we are doing and why we are doing it, it doesn’t matter what other people’s comments are. But for people close at heart, do let them understand why you are doing it. In fact share with all people around you that you are undergoing weight loss.

You know you are going to create something positive from it for yourself, and in the journey you will come to realise that you will unwittingly create something positive in the lives of people you know, be it in a small way or a BIG WAY.

At times we discover that we caught ourselves attracting negative people and events over and over again, and can’t explain why. When we expect something we do not want, we attract the undesirable, and when we desire a thing that is not expected, we actually send out some mental signal. On the other hand, when we constantly expect what we persistently desire, our ability to attract becomes irresistible.

Thank the people who gave you comments, both positive and negative comments. When we know what we are doing is positive, exhibit positive thinking and say positive words and you will also feel positive.

Negative	Positive
Can’t drink coke/soft drink	I am trying out this fruit juice today
Doesn’t like exercise	I will start walking/exercising
Don’t have time to do this	I will start with 10mins/15mins a day
I can’t because I’m too old to do this	People older can do it, so can I
I’m so fat	I am in the process of having a slender, happier and healthy body

When people around you are saying something negative, and when you respond in positive words, you will dispel the negative vibes sent out by the people saying something negative.

You may be curious about why you keep attracting the same thing over and over again. You are certain you are doing something positive, yet negative experiences keep showing up. This sometimes occurs because we are sending a negative vibe non-deliberately.

The word vibe is often used to describe a mood or a feeling that you pick up from someone or something. Every mood or feeling causes you to emit either a positive vibe or negative vibe.

At times we will feel hungry due to the lesser intake of food, or not happy with the amount of weight loss achieved through exercising. Through our own observation, we emit a negative vibe and this negative vibe in turn will give us more negative vibes.

Hence, say positive, think positive, do positive and you will be positive.

And remember to respond to something negative by gracefully saying something positive.